Project Pat was really on to something when he wrote “Don’t Save Her.” After many failed attempts within just these past few weeks of helping people get it together, I have found the title line to be very true. There is absolutely NOTHING you can do to help someone who ain’t trying to help themself. That is literally the message.
But, “Why?” Why is this the case?
I will admit, I have never really been the one to always outright ask for help or even acknowledge that I need help. I have gotten better though. Honestly, for me, it has been somewhat of a pride thing. (I am also very stubborn): I know that I would be able to get things done the way I want if it’s just me. Also, I don’t want to seem like I don’t know what I’m doing or I don’t have things under control; however, when someone who is able to provide me with some assistance and/or CLEARLY knows what they are talking about offers to lend a helping hand or give advice, I’M LISTENING, especially if it’s helping me to grow!
Now, you’re probably wondering what’s the point of this dramatically titled post, and where it stems from. Well, as I approach almost 2 years of working in a legit leadership role at work, I have realized that it is not actually the work or meetings that are hard, but it is the managing of people: that’s a BISCUIT!!! I have literally had some days where I would come home and just be like, “What the world?!” (This past Monday was one of those days.)
People gonna people has become my new non-justification/justification for why people do what they do.
Even when I try to be of help and support, people still people! Or as the old people say, you can carry the horse to the water, but you can’t make it drink.
But no more! I can’t and won’t get upset when people people after I try to help, whether it be work or whatever. There is no sense of going crazy over people who don’t want the help, even when it’s clear that they might need it.
I’m all about peace of mind, per one of my previous posts, and I wish that for all who may be dealing with this same thing.
Simply Dominique 